I’d like to introduce myself. I am a woman in my late thirties. I recently discovered that the man I’ve been living with for almost six years has been cheating on me. With his ex wife.
This is not my first cheating experience. But when it came to this particular man I never thought he would put me through this.
He is, actually he was, the most kind and sweet man I’ve ever met.
We have been talking a lot through our years, especially about boundaries and what we both consider as cheating. And we have always been on the same page.
It’s been about one week since I stumbled upon this news. Well, to be totally honest, it was his ex wife that contacted me.
She sent me messages including screenshots. I didn’t give her much attention regarding any of the new information I received.
She has been a dark cloud in our relationship from day one. I would never give her the satisfaction or the power to know my true feelings about her or this whole cheating part.
Not only did her messages include information about their relationship, she also accuse him of stalking her and that she felt the need to get protection because of his behavior.
I was completely shocked about all this. But I did manage to calm myself and try to talk to him about all of this.
Since then we have been talking, he has confessed a lot of stuff but not the things that she has sent me.
One part of me wants to believe him so bad, but the fact that he has lied through all these years makes me doubtful.
It’s never a good time to get this sort of information, but in our case it’s the worst timing.
The Holidays are coming up and we are about to move to a new city in a new home.
I feel trapped. Trapped in lies, I doubt him, I doubt myself and the worst part is that I don’t know him anymore.
If you are able to lie and practically live two lives I wonder if he ever loved me.
I’m sure that I will never be able to get any conclusion myself, that is why I started this blog.
To ask you, what would you do? Have you ever been in this sort of situation?